V , You handled yourself very well ! I think you gave this young Elder a lot to think about . Hopefully they will just let it rest ,but don't be surprised if two Elders want to visit you next .
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Dreaded elder's visit come and gone.
by Vidqun inthe dreaded elder's visit has come and gone.
this is a condensed version.
e=elder; v=vidqun.. v: i believe god has withdrawn his spirit from the leadership and congs of jws because of all the bad things happening.
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How truly happy are you?
by Freeof1914 ini am just curious to hear of some you who have left the org completely, how happy are you?
in my situation i feel like i am on a precipice and about to make a leap into the unknown.
since i have told my family elders and wife that i will mo longer go to the meetings or out on service i feel as if a load has been lifted.
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troubled mind
OMG , I can not begin to explain the happiness i feel now compared to when I was a witness .
It was a process though . I felt the heavy weight lifted off of me right away just because I finally made the decision to leave, and followed through with it . However you do not leave a way of living and magically change over night . I think it took me three good years to stop having emotional swings back and forth . It also depends if JWs are still involved in your everyday life ...having to deal with them on a daily basis can seriously hinder your recovery .
The relief from the release of guilt ,fear and anxiety so common among JWs makes life truly enjoyable now . I don't have a fantastic career ,and I do feel I wasted the best years of my life. However what is left is all MINE to do with as I see fit ,and not some publishing company . I had always been one of those good little sheep that did what they were told to do until I reached a point that I did not know what I really wanted in life anymore . I was living someone elses dream not my own .
It has taken a few yrs to really discover what do I reallly think about many issues ,and what do I really like and dislike . My smile is genuine now and frequently I just smile when I am driving alone in my car ,because I am just that happy now .
Good luck with your journey . Be patient ,move forward ,try to look back less ,and less . BE HAPPY
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Where is the nicest hotel that you ever went to in your lifetime?
by Iamallcool ini want to vacation somewhere sometime later this year, but i am not sure where i want to go yet.
i need some ideas.
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troubled mind
WHO ARE YOU FREAKIN PEOPLE !!!! and will you adopt me ?????
I spent 44 yrs as a JW cleaning toilets ....the best I ever got was the top hotel (i.e. super 8 or Ramada ) on the list for the summer assembly ....
Actually we did splurge once on vacation to CA ,and stayed at a nice place in La Jolla ....
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185 people died in a matter of seconds
by sizemik inin exactly 1 hours time, we will stop and remember a moment that changed my life forever .
chrictchurch at 12:58 pm 22/02/2011 .
7 minutes after a 6.3 quake struck at 5km deep directly beneath the city.. rip to my friends dominic and woodsy .
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Much sympathy to you Sizemik .....What a tragic loss ..... May you have strength -
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Question about the memorial :)
by TimothyT ini have no doubt that in a few weeks when the campaign to spread memorials invites is underway that my good friend, the jw, will give me an invitation.
she has already told me that she would support me when walking in, telling me that i could sit next to her and she wouldnt give a damn what others would think that she was encouraging a disfellowshipped person.
she is very sweet, and i appreciate her thoughts.. however, i would rather not go because i believe the whole thing is done wrong anyway.
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troubled mind
After I faded it felt strange to skip the Memorial after 44 yrs. I went to a local church instead that offers communion to everyone visitors included .....doing that seemed a hundred times more significant in honoring Jesus than any JW Memorial ever did . After that ,the Memorial just seemed ridiculous .
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What do you think of a Jehovahs Witness doing ?
by garyneal inmy wife, a jehovahs witness, buys our daughter valentines and lollipops with a valentines day theme.
she then takes the time to put them together the night before valentines day and sends them with our daughter to school on valentines day.
what would you think of such a jehovahs witness?.
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troubled mind
I THINK SHE IS AWESOME !!! Your children are very lucky .... She no doubt uses the fact you are an unbeliever to her benefit ,but who cares she obviously is enjoying some freedom .
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That's right, beeotch! Pour my coffee and go own with your cult self...
by undercover innoroomforgeorge must be drooling over this wt illustration.
the (1950s) woman of his dreams.... .
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Oh they are definitely going to 'do it' once she gets out of those frumpy clothes ......oh wait maybe they are playing out a sexual fantasy of his ! Sister have you come to confess your sins to me ,first pour me some coffee ....
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If THIS MAN were a Jehovah's Witness 2 million babies would be dead
by Terry injames harrison has magical blood.. specifically, his blood contains an extremely rare enzyme that can be used to treat babies dying of rhesus disease.
if you've never heard of that disease and figure it's not a big deal, well, wait for the numbers.. harrison, being a generous type, has donated his rare, life-saving blood roughly 1,000 times over 56 years.
this has saved the lives of--seriously, you're not going to believe this--over two million babies around the world.. .
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troubled mind
I heard on the radio just the other day about a local woman that has a rare blood type . She produces red blood cells faster than most, and can donate more than usual . She said she began donating as a 'pay it forward ' kind of thing because her husband had suffered from lukemia ,and survived for yrs because of the generous blood donations of others . I thought it was inspiring ,as is the story about this man . What a wonderful thing it is that he can provide a cure for someone else ,to me that is a hero .....but then I do tend to think logically most of the time
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Honestly....What Kind Of Jehovah's Witness Were YOU???
by minimus inwhen you were a witness, were you pretty much like you are now---personality wise?
are you calmer or more agitated?
are you that much different?.
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troubled mind
My boss and my children tell me they like me better now !! Actually my boss said I appear happy and more natural now, not so tense .
As a witness I was always stressed out . I was in a constant state of worry . I hate to think back at how much I yelled at my children because we were running late for meetings or service . I felt the weight of responsibility for everyone's spirituality in the family .It distressed me when my husband would not take the lead and then I would feel pressured to make up excuses for his missed talks and service time.
In the congregation I was always the sister people came to for an encouraging word ,and a listening ear ....My Mother had always taught me to think of others first ,to put myself in their shoes .....This is a good lesson ,however I think I took it to an extreme ...to the point I didn't know what I Needed anymore . Today I am more careful not to become so wrapped up in other peoples problems .
I also was the type of person that cared about the less popular ones in the hall . I made a point of really talking to the lonely elderly sister sitting by herself ,or the semi active couple that others ignored . Now I focus on myself more ,and my immediate family ,it feels healthier .
I feel joyful now in my life . I smile so much more now and for no particular reason other than my insides are finally happy
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Do you want/expect your kids to take care of you when you're old?
by GoingGoingGone ini had a conversation with my daughter tonight that got me pretty upset, and i'm wondering if i'm expecting too much from my kids.. both my kids went to outstanding colleges, have landed very well-paying jobs, and have very bright financial futures ahead of them.
this makes me especially happy because my husband and i have always had to struggle financially (we both grew up jws and never got to go to college.
) it was a sacrifice for us to send them to college, but i would do it all again in a heartbeat.
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GGG ....my feelings would be hurt too if my children said that to me (they can think it ,but just never say it to me ) I would hope one of them would offer me a room if or when the need arises .
My Mother in law feels just the opposite ,she has said no matter what she will not live with any of her kids in her old age ( happy,happy,joy,joy for me ). No honestly I would want to help her ,because i am a kind and generous person (that usually lacks good judgement ).
****Commune idea **** My best friend has said this for yrs . We are all in our fifties and her idea is we have our own nursing home and take care of each other and pool our funds . I already told her I AM NOT CHANGING DIAPERS !
Much sympathy to you Sizemik .....What a tragic loss ..... May you have strength